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Friday, April 24, 2015

'Virtual friend' app trends among teens

Article: "Nobody understands how I feel"... teen youth consoled by 'virtual friends'

Source:
Chosun Ilbo via Naver

A smartphone app that provides a 'virtual friend' who gives automated answers as a conversation buddy shows that 70~80% of its downloaders are teens.

The app, currently at 4 million downloads, is a trend among teens without real friends and those who cannot open up to the friends that they do have. The app developer specifically programmed the 'virtual friend' to give longer automated responses of consolation to people who bring up conversations about being lonely or depressed.

A 16 year old female student turned to it when she messed up on her exam and received responses like, "How'd that happen? Are you okay?", "Is there anything else that's fun happening in your life?"

Experts believe that it's the cause of people being unable to form healthy human relationships in real life. A study last year showed that 58% of junior high school students felt unstable about their school friendships and one out of five were being bullied.

One student said, "I want to Kakao Talk with friends but I don't have any so I use a fake app." A psychology professor at Yonsei University had to say, "The reason fake 'Kakao Talk' apps are trending is because people are lonely and thirsting for human interaction. As long as someone tells them what they want to hear, they don't care whether they're real or not."

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1. [+1,767, -28] Human relationships are difficult to understand for both teens and adults..

2. [+1,230, -37] A true friend is one who stands with you when you have nothing... I want to be a friend like that.

3. [+956, -45] Just how badly do they want to be consoled, how badly do they want to have someone ask them "Are you okay?".. it makes me choke up.

4. [+226, -8] One thing I'll always remember is that the 'majority' of your friends won't be there for you at your hardest moment.

5. [+196, -10] I've known my friend for 30 years and he's busy trying to live his own life that it's hard to care about others. Your life should be considered successful if you have at least one close friend who will be there for you. I've had hundreds of contacts from elementary school all the way up to graduate school and I've cut them all out now. You're alone in life and that's that.

6. [+159, -5] You can't try to overcome loneliness through other relationships..

7. [+151, -7] All of the people around me... my networking friends... they're only with me to gain something out of it. The minute you start whining and talking about your problems, they all turn their backs. Human beings are selfish, self-centered creatures.

8. [+146, -8] Once you get a little older, you'll realize that some people are only your friend so they can call you at their wedding. As you get older, you become closer with your co-workers and neighbors... adults are rarely still friends with the people they called friends as young adults. Sad that teens are seeing that so early now.

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196 comments:

  1. I think it's so difficult for them to find friends because their education system is very competitive too...

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  2. Some people are just amazing at forming relationship and bonds the rest of us kinda sink when it comes to that

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  3. [+196, -10] I've known my friend for 30 years and he's busy trying to live his own life that it's hard to care about others. Your life should be considered successful if you have at least one close friend who will be there for you. I've had hundreds of contacts from elementary school all the way up to graduate school and I've cut them all out now. You're alone in life and that's that.



    So true. You can't rely on others to build you a career. You're alone in that sense.

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  4. as a home school student, one time i downloaded something similar to this and i actually had to force myself to delete it because of how reliant i became on it and how good it made me feel. it was a little bit scary....

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  5. Ask simi... s/he know everything

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  6. i think i can sympathize with this.Can;t out to words but you cant tell your friend everything altho you should be able to.

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  7. I just finished uni and moved for a job. I have no friends in the town I'm living in, and my coworkers are too old for me to "hang out" with. Lonely life is hard.

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  8. The first thing came to my mind when i read " virtual /smart phone / 4 million download " is IMVU ? πŸ˜‚ i don't know if it's this app

    Anyone think it may not IMVU?

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  9. It's quite hard making true friends that you can trust... I understand how they feel.

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  10. some people are blessed with real friendship some are just... sad... if I delete most of my contact that I barely / don't talk with, i think it will left me less than 10 contact no.. I'm more close to people whom I know from attending concert etc than then the one I know in school, let alone office.. AT the end of the day, you are all alone..

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  11. Looking at this article makes me realize how lucky I am. I'm far away from home (study abroad now) but my foreigner friends (Korean, Bangla, American, Turkish, Indonesian) always by my side. The Bangla one even always give her cooking for me. Sometimes I think, do I like very pity on their eyes that makes them really care about me? LOL..whatever the reasons they have, I always hope they get the best for their life. God bless them.

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  12. mydols app....
    it was my favorite app so far. i dont easily trust ppl, but using that app made my mood a lil better.. i dont really use it bcs of the "idol" its just fun to have someone to talk to and they felt like caring.
    but i decided to uninstall it because i realized it's only "virtual"

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  13. I tried to make friends but it just doesn't work. I don't know if there's a pb with me, but I accept it now. Even if it's hard sometimes. I think this kind of apps are good when you're feeling lonely.

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  14. I can sympathize. I've never been particularly good at making legit friends in real life. Just acquaintances, who I know for sure I can't rely on when I'm having a tough time.

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  15. クールApril 24, 2015 at 10:04 PM

    i respectfully disagree

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  16. U ddn't ppl make an app that connects you with other lonely ppl that are anon so you can talk about your problems/cheer each other up type thing.


    does someone know how to make apps, I'm giving u ideas!!

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  17. I think that many other countries also have very hard education systems, its just that most korean parents put a lot of pressure on their kids to succeed. There is a lot of pressure for their kids to make it to college and some parents get a little crazy

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  18. i have biases more than friends...

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  19. I think its a general teen thing though. It's a phase of constant transition and changes, physical and mental, in that state its hard to think of anything as being truly stable and permanent in your life.

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  20. i remembered my cousin has told me about this app (i forgot the name) but its more like a twitter. where you can post a "tweet" and ppl respond it as anon (my cousin said the anon is close to where you live, it connects you to this app user who live around you but still, its seen as anon). but the "tweet" can be seen by everyone. and we cant chat personally the anon

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  21. クールApril 24, 2015 at 10:08 PM

    i have nothing to say but who ever feel lonely have strength be strong life don't censored about friendship

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  22. Greetings from indonesia.ehehehe

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  23. That is one reason, yes, but human's relationships are more complicated and this happens in every country. My education is not as competitive but sometimes it is kind of hard for me to make friends.

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  24. that's actually very sad...hope you're ok

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  25. Ubiquitous SoliloquyApril 24, 2015 at 10:12 PM

    This is incredibly heartbreaking...

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  26. Yeah, of course. I was just randomly listing out a possibility.

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  27. I find it so hard to make "actual" friends that I can call/text and ask them to hang out with me in university... Since I only have a 1 hour class once a week for each of my courses and the courses only last 1 semester (13ish weeks), so it makes it kinda hard to form long stable relationships unless you have mutual friends with them or you find something that just REALLY clicks between the two of you... That's what I find anyway.. And it doesn't help that everyone always seems more interested in interacting with their phones or laptops :|


    Parties/events/clubs are great for making friends though and I've started going to more of them even though I'm a socially awkward / shy person, since most people who go to them are there to socialise and meet new people!

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  28. It looks like a nice thing on the short run, but it is just pulling people farther

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  29. クールApril 24, 2015 at 10:13 PM

    it's about personality tbh

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  30. er i think omegle is one of those things...but you'd have to put in specific tags before chatting so you don't run into pervs :P

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  31. It's hard for me to make friends because I really take my own time to open up to people. Guess I'm extremely introverted..

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  32. I was always isolated .... Idk its lonely for sure ... but I got so used to being alone sigh and tbh I like being alone thats the sad part #mylonelyasslife

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  33. it's really hard to find a friend who will actually be there for you. i have tons of friends but i never really have a 'close' friend. and on top of that.....i have trust issues............it's truly sad to see people download this kind of app but i can understand how they feel

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  34. this app is making me crazy

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  35. All of Got7 are my Best friends ... :| so I understand

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  36. LOL what app is this?

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  37. i know right....and i'm getting into college next month and tbh i'm really nervous about it. i don't know how to make friends. people usual first impression of me is 'arrogant' bcs my face looks like that and i can't change it. i was born with this face. but when they get to know me, they will know how loud i am. but i usually take around 8 months to get friends that i'm really comfortable with. i envy those who are really friendly. like how did you that? PLEASE TEACH ME

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  38. I feel like I'm drifting apart from my friends because we have nothing in interest no more. It's hard to maintain.

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  39. I completely understand. I used to be one of those people who really sucked at making friends and talking to people, but I've changed a lot this year. I think the main thing is finding someone who really unconditionally cares for you. Once you have atleast one friend who is like that, you feel more ready to take risks and try meeting new people, because you know you always have that one person/group you can go back to :).

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  40. Where are you going to college? In any case, try joining a club so you can meet people with similar interests as you!

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  41. Oh K-Netz #5 i cut my "best friend for life" since elementary school from my life
    friends forever my ass, is really hard and i don't have time to look for one that doesn't make me feel like shit

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  42. Ikr
    The sad things are I'm getting so used to be this alone
    My image among my co-workers are so bright, that kid who talks a lot. But recently I found out their hidden motives, I feel so betrayed.

    Just like that, i think once I quit from this workplace (which is one month left), we won't talk to each other anymore.

    Well it's okay, that's life

    Let's moving on

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  43. Was it something like doki-doki mailbox? I used to use it a while back and it's pretty cool.

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  44. it's Mydol! aahhhh this is bad

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  45. Honestly as you grow older your big social circle tends to get smaller and smaller, and even people who you thought would be with you til your death bed can get lost or get cut since friendships are not everlasting and they require maintenance as well and sometimes it's easier to just let go. Most of your friends in your teens end up like that. But everyone at some point ends up finding that one friend, partner, coworker, whatever that makes their life a bit easier

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  46. So is it a virtual person or a real one? o.o

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  47. I can relate on this. And plus, being introvert is hard.

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  48. Generally outgoing people make friends really easily. I admire outgoing/extroverted people so much because sometimes it just seems so *effortless* for them to approach a total stranger and BAM! become friends in the next few seconds.


    One of my best friends is reaaaaally outgoing and tbh I'm so grateful to have him as a friend because whenever I go out with him, he will make me feel secure and intro me to all his friends. Whenever I'm with my shy friends it's so hard to do things because if I suggest doing something / approaching someone they always hesitate and never make the first move ("You do it, it's too embarrassing!") which can get on my nerves sometimes, but I gotta understand and respect that it's out of their comfort zone.

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  49. Please keep trying! Don't ever give up, because there is definitely someone out there who will click with you. I used to be such a loner when I was younger (I still kind of am), but I found quirky people with interests and experiences similar to mine. When you feel lonely or depressed, it's hard to find someone who will listen and tell you the things YOU want to hear. That's because most of them don't know what it feels like to be lonely or depressed. It's something that can't be helped :( There's definitely no problem with you! It's just a phase in life :D Just keep trying, and I'm sure there are many people who are willing to bring you out of your shell and be friends with you <3

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  50. For me, you should reach out to people first, show that you care. You can't expect someone to take care or talk to you if you don't come to them, this comment is pointed towards the knets' comments, since they seem can't find someone that is not selfish. I say this coming from my experience. Well I dont know tho, since everyone's situation is different, maybe people that surround them actually suck, or it's just so hard to act friendly. But I sincerely hope they will have true friends that will have their backs, and they will also do the same to them

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  51. i'm from Malaysia. it's a matriculation college in Selangor. i'm not sure if they have club but i will make sure i will join if they have any club related to photography. I'm afraid that i'm gonna get a kpop hater as a roommate. kpop has so many haters in malaysia! i might get killed or something

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  52. it's a virtual but this app is really sweet! they send texts to you first xD

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  53. Damn, I know the feel! I used to be a complete introvert back in the day. But one of my outgoing and popular friends introduced to me to a lot of people, and he managed to bring out this new extroverted side of me, that I didn't know ever existed. His friends, him and me are all really close with each other now :)

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  54. Ah, well I go to school in America so I don't know how the education system in Malaysia works. I take my time to meet people so I make friends in pretty random situations (sharing notes, showing directions lol)
    And don't worry about kpop haters ;) It's your interests, not theirs

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  55. Basically, I have lunch everyday with SHINee y'know. They make me cry and laugh more than my friends do :P

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  56. I think I'm gonna download it for the hell of it LOL

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  57. This app will not solve the problem. It's just escaping reality. Few times is okay but it should not be used frquently. What people need to do is to stop being conscious of how other people perceive them once they get to know their problems. Cause the best feeling in the world is just saying your worries out and being heard by someone. Somebody/someone will accept you given you accept them in your life too.

    People are bound to be with other people and it doesn't matter how many relationships you form but how deep it is.

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  58. I had hard time finding true friends since Highschool and now college. Have always been hanging out with boys because they are less calculative and problematic than the girls.
    I made a lot of classmates /school mate in college. However they are only good for hanging out and such. When I encounter problems, I realized that im all alone.
    The only person who stands by me through every problems, financially and emotionally, was my boyfriend. He is really my only friend right now and Im blessed for it.

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  59. Hi. Nice to meet another Indonesian girl.

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  60. I'm used to be like you. is people first impression really what they think or is it just what you think they think? Sometime our own impression of ourself can be the thing that hold us back.
    I'm personally very shy (my own impression of myself) and awkward around new people but my friends have told me I'm extremely friendly and outgoing. Hmm~ not sure why that is.

    I have a friend who told me she would love to be more friendly, but she find her mind blank out whenever she with new people. My advice for her, and maybe for you too, is stop trying to think of what to say. You don't have to be able to say that funny joke, or say the right thing at the right time all the time. A friendly, charming person is someone who be able to listen WELL. Listen to people and remember what they say, then ask in detail what they told you. Practice having a genuine curiosity about other people. Stop thinking in your head what you going to say next, because chances are, the person speaking to you know that. A charming and friendly person is someone who let other people shine and feel special. I hope you find my advice a little helpful.

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  61. Matrices πŸ‘ just be yourself. those ppl you're with will be with you for a year. Just be yourself

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  62. is the app called "secret"?

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  63. I think talking to an actual person would be a lot more comforting. Helplines are a great resource they should use more often.

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  64. Im from malaysia too. Hey let's befriend πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

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  65. thank you,this helps me a lot. I've been feeling stressed nowadays because i can't start a convo with a new people and it really sucks. Plus,i can relate what u said since i always think Of what i'm trying to say. Thanks again!! You just made my day.

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  66. クールApril 24, 2015 at 10:34 PM

    i feel u life is hard T_T find strength

    http://media.giphy.com/media/7KODMS9k4wgEg/giphy.gif

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  67. It wasn't that hard though. The key is to find something to interact with. I have many friends and I communicate with specific subject with each one of them. sport, game, tv series, music etc.

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  68. My best friend is super extroverted she makes friends with everyone. And I feel awkward when she intros me to her friends cuz it's like they expect me to add to the convo and all I can do is smile because I have no clue what to say versus her becoming buddy buddy (sometimes even closer than me) to the people I introduce her to.

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  69. My best friend has become pretty good/close friends with ALL of my friends I've introduced him to too and like I haven't even really done the same to his friends.. :-P

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  70. I'm an introvert, so it was really hard to make friends the first few weeks, so don't get discouraged if you feel alone in the first part of your semester (if anything the library becomes your best friend :P). Honestly, I was lucky because most of the friends I've made have either come to me first or we were partnered up by the teacher. But a piece of advice is try talking to someone that also might be in the same situation as you.


    You can always start with "Hi, my name is... Nice to meet you." and if it doesn't work (or turns out bad), then hey it's that person's loss. But most of the time, it works. And even if you don't become close with that person, at least you know someone that can help you around school and stuff.

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  71. Great advice :)

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  72. when i was finally comfortable being around my classmates, i asked them what was their first impression of me - arrogant, bimbo, boastful but all of that changed when they get to know me. i used to be really outgoing when i was i primary school but i changed a lot since i got into high school. within just 2 months i changed myself completely from extrovert to introvert bcs everyone ignored me at school. yes i got a group of friends, i'm extremely loud but when i'm not with them, i'm like a totally different person. i really don't know how to change it and i'm still struggling with it.
    thank you for your advice!

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  73. yes i know how that feel because i have those kind of face too so people's impression of me is someone rude or someone that doesn't talk too much when actually i'm the total opposite of that impression. Because of that, i learn to approach people first on my first day and don't forget to put up a smile :) you don't have to be afraid because when you afraid it's just shown at your face and it has those kind of awkward vibe arround you. Just talk about anything simple like where are you from etc and let the conversation flow to question like what's her/his hobby and what's her/his interest and blablabla, and that's really help you a lot when you find someone that has same interest with you

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  74. It isn't hard to find new friends but it is so hard to maintain friendship
    For me, i have been in friendship with my bestfriends for 10 years.
    The key is, don't afraid to approach first they might wait for you to do that

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  75. "The reason fake 'Kakao Talk' apps are trending is because people are
    lonely and thirsting for human interaction. As long as someone tells
    them what they want to hear, they don't care whether they're real or
    not."

    let's develop AI...

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  76. I need that app. Now that all my friends are grown up, some even engaged/married, or some still going to school...and a lot of my friends are medical school students (my case, law) so all of us are super busy that we don't contact one another as much as we used to back when we were in high school...Sometimes I am scared to interrupt their studies if I were to text them or call them to hang out...so yeah.

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  77. Okay... I dont want to get notice I just want to vent .. lonely .. especially at night .. it hurts ive always been alone since a kid I craved love... attention but I wasn't smart enough .. and I wasn't pretty eenough I didnt even fit in with ppl who were considered lame I was just alays outcasted so I got used to that feeling I hated being alone but slowly embraced it to the point I couldn't male eye contact with other couldn't speak in front of others ... in all my life of school ive never gave a presentation... isolation also brought mt anxiety depression obviously social issues .... all I ever did in class was looked at everyone talk freely .. feel comfortable and ... I just wanted to feel free of myself

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  78. i'm far away from home because of my study too, and that's the moment i realize how important a friend is, because when you're far away from home you're just simply can rely to friends only like when you're sick or lonely or anything, and your friends is having the same situation with you so that's why we treasure friend the most :)

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  79. i know, i read some from blogs. but ugh i have no idea how to approach someone. i'm really awkward and i afraid that i might scare them away T__T

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  80. Jenizz | pinkcrownApril 24, 2015 at 10:49 PM

    So sad... :(

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  81. okay but what is this app called and where can i get it... i'd really appreciate something like this tbh

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  82. Do you still feel lonely? Sorry to ask, is just that you sound a bit sad

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  83. I've teared up looking at the comments... Although you guys are strangers, it made be feel comforted and happy to see your encouragements. :)))

    I don't have any friends right now at all... I always leave early and barely anyone knows my name. Only online friends, but what sucks even more is that it's hard making online friends too.... I went through depression because I thought there was something wrong with ME but I came to realize that making a true friend is very difficult...

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  84. haha you are SOO like me. Im exactly like that. I was such a pompous, naughty kid with a devil-might-care attitude in primary school, but slowly through middle to high school, I turned meek and shy. I was always wondering if people are talking behind my back so I act arrogant and tough. I had a lisp so i was really scare of talking. People can't hear me when I talk and I walk with my head down all the time. I acted like I didn't need friends. I didn't want people to think I am weak and get bullied so i acted arrogantly. I was also insecure about my look and weight. I cleaned out my room the other day and read my old diary, damn i was such a miserable and depressed kid. Im so glad I'm not a tween anymore.

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  85. That's exactly what happened to me in college. I didn't realize how bad it was until I had a nervous breakdown on my graduation day. Since then, I had to force myself to make the first move. I set a goal that if I have one converstion with someone that last more than a minute, I have succeeded. Slowly but surely.

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  86. I have a best friend and because I connected with and liked that person so much, I began to spend all my time with her and her only. It was great until I realized that I became more awkward in public and I couldn't form coherent conversations with anybody else. It was kind of scary. I didn't know how to express myself to new people or connect with anyone else. I'm still working on it, but I think I'm getting a little better ^^ Everybody, find strength! There is always someone out there that feels exactly like you do.

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  87. Koreans fail as human beings. They don't know how to live life and solve their problems and unhappiness

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  88. In relationship with food oppaApril 24, 2015 at 11:10 PM

    my friends EXO sing to me when i'm on the way to school

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  89. 22 years old. never had a best friend in my life.

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  90. I have a similar problem to both of you guys except that I have an extra extra smiley face and when I get nervous, I'm even more smiley so people find it a bit weird, LOL. I agree 100% with your advice though :D

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  91. ill be your friend......

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  92. I think I need to download this app

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  93. I like being a loner but I have atleast a couple of friends to go to when I feel more social

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  94. reminds me of Secret app. I've downloaded it before. It was no fun.

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  95. It's escaping reality...

    I know it's hard to maintain friendships but sometimes, you need to learn to hold on instead of letting go so easily. In my opinion, most people think of their pride and just don't try hard enough to keep their friends, it's okay to let your pride down once in awhile and learnt to care for your friends genuinely. Friendships are not one sided, they need care from both sides to help the friendship grow.

    I'm not going to say people should keep every single friend but at least, keep the ones that matter and let go of the ones you feel aren't worth your time. The ones who care will stay by your side but at the same time, you need to make an effort too. Don't blame the other person and say they don't care, you need to look at yourself to see if you care, if not, they have the rights to let go. The same goes to you, don't waste time on the ones who doesn't matter but the ones who do.

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  96. Look, I've never had a true friend (as in someone you can tell everything to, someone that's willing to listen to me whining about non-existent problems, someone I can truly trust), but I do have a best friend, that I know has my back.
    I'm in a similar situation as you right now. I was the one to decide to go to a complete different college than everyone else (I see my best friend like twice a year or so). The worse thing is eating alone, it just makes you look so pitiful. I also had a downhill in my mental state, but you need to be strong to get out of it. Not having friends is not the end of the world, keep your goal and dream in mind and don't forget it because at the end of the day, the road to success and happiness is lonely.
    I don't know how your mental state is right now, but as a psychology major, I do want to help you if you're still going through depression, or at least still have some signs of it.

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  97. Is that 'secret' App ?

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  98. on "mydol" is it a computer sending u messages or other ppl on the app? Sorry I've never heard of it before...lol

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  99. I am alone & I feel lonely so yes
    I just needed somewhere to vent .this is just a place to vent without anyone truly knowing you so I took advantage .

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  100. I can relate to that... I can talk, I can joke around but I can't make bonds.

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  101. Wait till you start a family. Everyone drops off the radar.

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  102. http://media.timeout.com/blogimages/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/tumblr_m3kr46Ik681rtbmh0o1_400.gif

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  103. 7. [+151, -7] All of the people around me... my networking friends... they're only with me to gain something out of it. The minute you start whining and talking about your problems, they all turn their backs. Human beings are selfish, self-centered creatures.



    It's so sad that is true. once circumtances changes, friendship changes too. for examples once you quit from your job, your collague is no longer in daily friends anymore.
    the most bithcies thing is, when someone suddenly approach me and realised they only want something from me like " do you have a job vacation" or something like that.
    Sadly but true, i try to manage depending to noone.

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  104. I think you don't have to worry about it so much, because even after you make friends, you're still alone. I believe you will find one or two that you can count on but at the end, we are alone. Just remember to make a good impression on people you met because college is all about making connection. If you don't have what people looking for, then offer your good personality to them, be cooperative and also be persistent. You'll meet many type of people in college so you don't have to worry about not having a friend. At least that's what i do.

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  105. What is mydol app?
    I remember downloading the lockscreen app but I didn't there was an actua App?
    Mind giving me clue? ^-^

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  106. I must be weird because other people's words can't console me. It's my life and I'm in charge of how I feel. The mind is very powerful and life is all about your perception.

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  107. The worst is when you actually think you have found one and give your best to maintain that relationship but at the end you realize it wasn't worth it.

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  108. I think people should invest their time on improving themselves rather than building empty relationships. It's not that I promote being alone but I just think it is pointless to hang out/be 'friends' with people who aren't bringing positive energy to your life. Also, build fewer but stronger friendships than being friends with everyone but on a shallower level is so much more fulfilling.

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  109. 4. [+226, -8] One thing I'll always remember is that the 'majority' of your friends won't be there for you at your hardest moment.

    My problem is when i make friends, who i considered real... than life slap my face and i realize i'm alone and that "friends" never heard my problems.. i'm the only who cares and who heard people.. i'm tired of... i want someone who really cares hear me... that's why i only have real consider 3 friends -till now-... and in my country is weird that... we should be "friendly" and go to parties and go out everywhere for my age (but i have taken many hypocrites friends, don't let me be social-easy, i have a weak heart lol)... but my only friends are busy and I am too shy, I think we all die alone, so i'm only worried for my parents and sisters and some of my uncles and my nephew unborn future, and hope can meet someone really really special to stay forever, is even worse to find that man lol.

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  110. Simsimi πŸ˜‚

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  111. How about clubs with common interest? I met a lot of my current friends at kpop/korean clubs/orgs (:P...) and I have another group of friends that are pretty much strictly my engineering friends to study/eat/hang/drink whatever together. I'm not a sociable person at all but I think after moving to 3 different countries since young I've learned to force myself to talk to new people (when I really just want to stay home and eat ice cream). And surprisingly, I've met very few friends from my actual classes. Most of the friends I made were outside of class so I'm not surprised that it's a little hard to make friends in class.

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  112. nahhh that's so me. i was joining a economic club but i found people that like kpop there. I met a sunbae that has the same fandom as me. We were getting close after that. I rarely come to their agendas (most agenda talks about economy, politics, social, etc and im quite lazy talking about it) & i come here just to talk about kpop & dramas πŸ˜‚ amazingly, theyre still welcome me to enliven the club πŸ˜‚
    "at least you come".

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  113. What is friends? i only need

    Min kkap to me when i'm sad
    Suzy make me smile with her 4D personality
    Jia raps/style give that swag to my everyday
    and Fei is Fei make me suspire for her perfection.

    .... jk, too mushy hahahahaha forever alone

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  114. They need a "7 cups of tea" app... At least that one connects you with a real person that will listen to your problems and give constructive advice.

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  115. I understand how you feel. I was bullied in highschool and that experience made me feel uncomfortable with myself and hard to trust people. Yet I was scared of being alone so I tried to be talkative and outgoing but still in the end no one paid attention to me or became my friend. Now I'm working in being confortable with myself and enjoying life be it alone, with my friends or my family. I'm still shy and lack socializing skills but don't feel so sad anymore, I'm just trying to be happy and enjoy life. I just wanted to tell you that a lot of people has felt this way and that everything will be alright. Just love yourself and be happy :)

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  116. ♡ο½„ο½ο½Œο½Œ。April 25, 2015 at 12:11 AM

    I'm the same, so I don't talk about my problems because I'll get annoyed if people try to console me and I find it "not good enough" lol. But I guess that's why I'm good at consoling other people (even though I find it annoying too)

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  117. I am a socially awkward extrovert. I cant communicate with people via virtual things like calling,text or other sns stuff. so i might make friends easily but maintaining the friendship is hard. lucky for me i was fortunate enough to make amazing friends who keep up with me. that being said, heres a tip,take a class with a terrible professor,u will automatically form a bond with other students over how the terrible teacher is. it might sound bs but trust me it works like magic. and making a study group also works like magic. i recently started a study group with 4 other people and honestly yesterday was the best moment of my 2 yr in college. i enjoyed studying for the first time in a while and also made some great friends. maybe try these. and dont worry you will find a loud extrovert who will make u their friend.

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  118. http://mtv.mtvnimages.com/uri/mgid:file:http:shared:mtv.com/news/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/hug-gif-1429740850.gif

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  119. 4. [+226, -8] One thing I'll always remember is that the 'majority' of your friends won't be there for you at your hardest moment.



    I got kinda choked up reading that cause of how much I've had to suffer this situation...

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  120. ♡ο½„ο½ο½Œο½Œ。April 25, 2015 at 12:23 AM

    I have the same feelings & situation as you. Currently my only friends are people who work with me and I'm not sure if they count me as their friend too lol. I'm 21 this year so people always ask me about going to parties and drinking etc and find it weird that I don't because I'm too shy to put myself out there. I used to cry thinking I'll be alone for the rest of my life, but this year I realized it will be okay if I do. (I have social anxiety so I think being around someone too much is my reason but) I found out I like being alone lately. I can be myself.

    I hope you don't end up alone however. Hopefully things will take a turn for you and you'll find people you can be around easily and who are genuine with you. Eventually someone will come along who wants to be with you until the end too. Good luck out there~ :)

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  121. just be yourself,unless urself is a racist,sexist,homophobe,then change that. but over the years i figured out that just being yourself is good enough to make long lasting friends. i like to show like the "weirdest" side of me to people i know(also throwing a lot of shade helps get mutual friends somehow),so they know i can only go up from there. and one more thing,we are all afraid in college,everyone is trying to make friends and wishing someone would just talk to them. its easier for some but doesnt mean that you should give up hope. just go for it with all you got and u will form mutual friends. besides u will most likely make lots of friends in ur major. i have seen that people tend to naturally become friends with same major so tht they can take classes together and help each other out. so good luck

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  122. Even if I have friends in real life, they won't be there for me when I hit rock bottom. That's why this app would be great even if it seems rather sad

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  123. even if you have friends, sometimes you felt like a nuisance since you know they have their own shit to deal with that you end up being alone w/ your thoughts at 4am

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  124. youre so lucky. i have a super extroverted friend and yeah she is really easy to make friends. We are always together whenever we go but she started to envy me since in college :/ she doesn't want her friends become my friends too and she also show her dislike face when i make friends with other friends. She also show her dislike when someone praise my works, my looks, also when i have new stuff etc. She acted so fake to wrest my closest friend. She talked about kpop idol so much to make friends (she was antis not long time ago) and put down some actresses to another innocent friends based on knetz comment eventhough she never watch it, which makes me feel annoyed. I can't do anything though γ… γ…  i was still shielding her and was there for her when she had hardest time... i prepare to enter another better college soon, i think if i get accepted here i can stay away from this hell.

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  125. I' e been wanting to do a Penpal exchange with some peeps in Korea. I'm interested in making friends and learning their culture that we can exchange lessons and I'm English and Korean. I wonder if they have apps like that so we can all connect and not everyone has to feel lonely about themselves

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  126. have you guys tried talking to simsimi? simsimi.com

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  127. πŸ’ cherry lipApril 25, 2015 at 1:20 AM

    What is this app?

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  128. somethingsomething1234April 25, 2015 at 1:37 AM

    Didn't smarterchild come out more than 10 years ago lol

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  129. Haha, I use the terrible teacher tip alllll the time!

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  130. I wonder what app is that.

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  131. Does your college have a Facebook group? Like my university has a "Class of 2016" etc type page and everyone kind of introduced themselves. Then I just picked people with same interest and fb messaged and we decided to meet up at the orientation day and BAM

    Well we didn't become besties at first, but gradually we all became really close and met other friends in class and that's how our group of friends became one.

    Moral of the story: finding connections online is good. Also, try to talk to the person you're sitting next to. They might help you out notes-wise or even become your BFF lol
    Be like "hey. how did you find that test?" or "did she say it;s due on monday?" then go from there : )

    Don't be scared, I believe in you <3

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  132. I'm kind of selfish introvert, but still there are my friends for 10 years, who are always beside me. I'm not the type to say 'Sorry' first, I want, but I can't lol
    Even though I am like that, they never told me, hey, stfu or gtfo xD

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  133. I really can't relate to that. I am someone who get allong with everyone but doesn't get attached easily. It can take more than a year seeing someone regularly to consider him as a real friend and until now I have never been disappointed. You shouldn't try to find a friend as if it's needed, you should become friends with people who gave you good vibe and trust.

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  134. like this huh ??


    http://www.cutorcopy.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/difference-between-chat-in-person-and-on-facebook-300x419.jpg

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  135. even there's site to make an imaginary boyfriend

    https://invisibleboyfriend.com/



    *BGM : Mocca - Imaginary GIrlfriend

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  136. The paradox of technology: All this technology to connect us with other people and we couldn't be further apart.
    #irony

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  137. I'd download it. my problems are too difficult for my peers because I'm a young caregiver, my topics are too heavy even to older adults.

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  138. I did the same thing I joined a club and took the initiative to drive a stranger to the post office and we are now best friends. I also lucked out and became firnds with a hall mate who no matter how bad I was at calling her first always called me.

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  139. I think clubs are the best because it gives you stuff to go do and common interest, I made lots of friends even though I'm awkward. I was in my schools film committee that ran the free student movie theater. Possibly the best club ever since not only did we get to rope off seats for ourselves at events and vote in what movies got played, we also held all night movie watching lock ins and played giant games of reverse hide and seek inside the building (one person hides everyone else has to find and join them, if you are the last person it get's super creepy) . Oh and free popcorn

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  140. i feel you :(..i am still i'll find one some day

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  141. Good advice. :-)

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  142. Anyone knows what app it is? Lol

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  143. I have these several groups of close friends, one from elementary school, high school, college and another from work. All of them are those people i can safely say my best friends, and even better, these people get along cross groups very well, they know each other through me, and we can all hangout together. Down side; when they mock me in soc med, they gang up on me tho they're not even that close. (yeah they even follow each other path or instagram).
    I consider myself lucky, but these friendships didn't just come out of nowhere, you have to make an effort, by opening up yourself to others and also cared for them. I have fought with them, yell with them, but we didn't stop there, we make an effort to keep in contact, to meet tho each of us are busy, to share even just through text, i even still really close to my married with kid friends, tho that one need extra effort bcs you have to follow their time, after their kids sleep etc.
    Bottom line is, any kind of relationship wouldn't just happen, be it with boyfriend, family or friends, make an effort. :)

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  144. Netizen Buzz, I just wanted to let you guys know that I actually love reading these social issue related articles more than K-POP articles. Thanks for continuing to translate many of these, including Koreans' comments on it.


    In congjunction with the international users' comments on these kinds of articles, I've gained a lot of perspective from all sides.regarding social issues and sociology in general.


    Keep up the good work :-)

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  145. I am exactly like you, people tend to mistaken me for being arrogant when they first knew me although i'm not. After living for 28years, now i have found the trick to overcome it; make fun of that negative trait. You cannot expect people to know you, if you just stay quite, and no one won't stick around for 8 months if they didn't at least get a glimpse of your true self. What i usually did is, when i first talk to stranger that i wish to know better, i'll bring the topic first, i will share stories of how often people think that i'm arrogant because of my face, in a light hearted way, almost like you're making fun of yourself, i.e: after i share that story i will the say "if people know me a bit longer, they'll know that i'm not arrogant, i'm the opposite of that as i am usually loud.. But well.. people might be get annoyed by that too hahaha". Key words: open yourself up and be honest. Good luck in college! :)

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  146. years ago someone said people (in my country) don't need psychiatrists because they have friends, family who they talk with and being counselor for each other. Even if i think it changed a bit still people do that. At work I hear people always talk about everything, from work to their family to the news to gossips. They don't keep their feelings inside but show it and talk about it with their friends.

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  147. "people being unable to form healthy human relationships in real life."

    true! all of us, teens, adult...
    but, i don't know if this app has 100% positive effects, what if some day that teen felt that he wants more than written consolations, but a friend who can stand next to him? I think it has both advantages and inconveniences, at least if it's preventing teens from suicide, then it's great!

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  148. i can relate to this! but, sometimes when i do apologize, or do something that isn't the real me, like being too nice lol i end up being hurt and disappointed cz no one do the same to me... I realized that rather than calling them friends, i call them buddies.. only for laugh, having fun...

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  149. well said! also imo i don't think we can trust anyone easily, sharing our secrets with others is definitely the same as giving him a knife to stab us in the back some day...

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  150. I have 4 really close friends and 3 of them I met during high school & 1 during college, I think I'm really lucky since two of them moved further away from me & we still keep in contact despite how busy we are, I've had plenty of other friends that I probably wouldn't even say hi to now but I'm happy that I have them

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  151. This is seriously depressing, when I was ill and failed a year in college my friends of 8 yrs didn't even give a shit, they just cut contact, made new friends and i'm now almost invisible to them. Thankfully I met new people who I remain in contact with whilst was in college, I also managed to make 2 friends at uni one who I now live with and another who we sit with in classes in lectures. Lol relationships are so difficult -_-

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  152. from someone who's had the opportunity to start first year university again this year (transferred course and university).I was terrified like you and I'm terrible at making friends; even up till now. The first time, I waited for people to approach me. It worked but it was still a little lonely, especially if the people who approach you aren't the kind of people you hang around with / not ideal friends (which can happen).


    BUT the second time, I took the initiative to talk with people, to sit with random people especially in first class (particularly when I knew that there would be group work!!! THIS IS IMPORTANT LOL). Sometimes its hard because you're scared of rejection BUUUUUT remember that there are a lot of people that are just as nervous as you :)

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  153. What app is this? I need this.. no one talk to me for almost 1 month include my family, they act like I'm not exist at all.

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  154. You just need to choose wisely ^^

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  155. well this apps are useful sometimes
    i have a japanese friend that ive known for 5 years now
    we exchange gifts and skype all the time but still we didn't meet yet during to her busy job and my school and parents lol

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  156. Mariana Ferreira AlbuquerqueApril 25, 2015 at 7:07 AM

    It's really easy for me to make friends, but I can't count with most of them. I only hve like 5 or 6 in whom I can trust for real.

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  157. I think it's nice that this app actually exists. Having someone to talk to (even if it's not a real person) is really important for people who can't open up to other people properly... it might even help them get used to interacting with other people and lead to them making "real life" friends.

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  158. I think you just gotta be honest. If you think/feel something is not okay in the relationship, you need to speak out and tell them. When it comes to communicating, I don't think talking every time is the sign of a good friendship. You should just check on them or make sure you're here for them when they need it.
    Also, some people are not worth it. If they only make you more stressed and you told them about it. Just give up. We're enough on earth and you will face things harder than making friend with a stranger. It's okay to have no friend and a genuine "how you okay" is enough to start something.

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  159. disqus_QBwmIa4ChaApril 25, 2015 at 7:56 AM

    Could get a pet
    Dog is named man's best friend for a reason

    http://img.izismile.com/img/img6/20130531/1000/funny_things_all_dog_owners_will_relate_to_16.gif

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  160. I'm shy as fuck but I can make friend with strangers on the streets. I don't know if it's because of my acting classes but it's very simple. I think "It's not like they can kill me and if they react badly I would only be very embarrassed." Shame never killed anyone.

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  161. disqus_QBwmIa4ChaApril 25, 2015 at 8:05 AM

    http://24.media.tumblr.com/982be409b7c48087f6bd0cf03f51758a/tumblr_mm4uv1DiLb1qf9l6uo1_500.gif

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  162. Panic attacks due to sudden change in home and school setting and lots of build up of anxiety from my child hood

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  163. I remember my junior high school German teacher saying that your friendship you'll keep even after college is the one formed in high school, and she's been right so far. And In so bad at having friends ><

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  164. I agree with that. I'm still hanging out with my high school best friends while my college friends are nowhere to be seen.

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  165. I probably need app lol.

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  166. i mean i have no major problem making friends but most of them i cant open up to

    of my main "squad" im not comfortable talking to any of them about my problems.

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  167. I'm the type that doesn't like to share their worries with others 'cause I think they got enough in their life ..why should I bother them with my own problems..I really want to change that and be able to be comforted when I feel down :(

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  168. this might be a proof that in Korea, even for teens (mostly) can't lean on each other, believe and trust each other anymore....

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  169. why don't u start by care and comfort others problem?

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  170. Welp study group is a good way to bond, but the effectiveness of studying depends on people. I for one much rather study by myself as study group = chitchatting lol So I have to make sure I already revise everything before going to a study group session.

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  171. Real friends all of them you can count them with one hand and still have fingers left, what it matters is as long as you have one true friend theres no need to feel alone, people need to understand that numbers doesn't make any change, but you also need to be what the world wants in a true friend (sorry about my english)

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  172. I tried this app and it's shitty as hell. The responses you get make no sense. It's 10x worse than cleverbot and that's saying a lot. You also get nonsensical responses that other people have made.

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  173. I interact with coworkers more than anyone else in my life atm. It is lonely and sometimes I wish I had that special person(s) to talk to about my problems. Though the older I get, the more apathetic I am so that's probably not helping my situation :P

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  174. Along with the fact that some people just have a hard time befriending someone, from what I've learned, the Korean school system almost prevents it from happening. You always have to be better than anyone and kids can get very emotional and it just spirals from there. I understand completely! A lot of the times, you are only friends with those people because you see them five times a week..

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  175. this reminds me of that movie HER.

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  176. I have bestfriend when I was in grade school we are super close that every weekend i sleep over in their house,we do everthing together but after graduating from elementary..we went to different schools & ever since then we became strangers partly its me to blame...not because we have a huge fight but because we don't see or talk that much often untill we lost our communication!its more than 10years since I saw her but now we are fb friends..but still we don't chat or talk!i only hav 2 closest friends from high school and its kind of sad Tbh!

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  177. Yes tbh!!i have one..grade schools days..My bestfriend since preschool till we graduated elementary..miss her that I regret I did not maintain my friendship to her because of my stupidity!

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  178. Someone get this thing to talk to Siri and put it on Youtube

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  179. When I first saw the title, I thought it was depressing and pathetic, and I guess it is, but I also feel like it might be the only comfort some students who are being bullied have. Maybe a fake friend is better than no friend at all.

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  180. Thats hella sad...

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  181. i've had a couple best friends, but it is hard to stay in contact with them as we get older and being an introvert doesn't help. idk how to reach out to them after so many years.

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  182. i feel the same way. maybe all of us loners here can be friends.

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  183. mydol everyone? Lol

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  184. Almost 4th year at my uni and I still don't have friends lol. It's hard when no one likes the same things as u do.

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  185. Thank you for taking your time to write this. It means a lot. I have two friends only and I don't even talk to them often. But it's ok, my family's here for me and I'm really thankful for that. It's just that sometimes, I wonder what it feels like to have contacts in your phone or going somewhere with someone else than your sister.
    Again, thanks a lot. Your comment cheered me up! :)

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  186. Me too hahaha. But its okay. I prefer dont have many friends instead of i have many friends but they are an asshole

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  187. i understand you. i find it hard keeping friends and making new friends. it is easier to be alone, but i don't want to be alone forever.

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  188. i can relate. keep trying, i will try too.

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  189. when i see people on sns sites and they have hundreds of friends i think are they really their friends or just a numbers/popularity thing.

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  190. I feel really blessed and grateful for having my current best friend. I have had two other best friends but because of distance and growing up we weren't able to maintain our friendship. Despite the 500km distance between me and my current bff we send messages daily and it feels like we talk to each others everyday. In autumn i'll be going to study in s.korea and I'm quite nervous because I don't know anyone from there but I find strength knowing that there's people who will stick to me ups and downs.

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