Netizens looks back on all the signs pointing to Jonghyun's depression
Article: 'Depression' found in Jonghyun's past lyrics... even in lyrics for G-Dragon, IU, BTS
Source: Asia Econ via Nate
1. [+1,188, -15] It's not like he could've complained to his friends and family every day that he was depressed. We need a better system for hospitals and consultation centers but in Korea, these places aren't a place people go to prevent or fix problems but rather seen as a place people go to as a last resort. When you say that you're getting mental help, there's a social stigma attached to it that makes people view you weird, which makes it harder for people to take the step to go... I really hope this culture changes soon.
2. [+939, -15] Depression is such a scary thing... It can happen to anyone, which makes it more upsetting. I hope he's not hurting where he is...
3. [+765, -21] These are basically dying messages... anyone suffering from depression or suicidal thoughts are bound to change in the way they act but the people around them usually brush it off as not a big deal and end up regretting it later. There are so many deaths that could've been prevented if people cared more... I'm sure not everything would've been preventable but I can't help but think about it..
4. [+54, -0] It seems like Jonghyun tried very hard to try and beat his depression and it makes it all the sadder that he wasn't able to
5. [+38, -0] Guillaume said on 'Abnormal Summit' that half of Canadians get some type of mental consultations while in Korea, you're seen as a psycho or messed up in the head if you get any type of consultation. We really need to change the stigma about it.
6. [+36, -1] I once suffered from depression and went to get a consultation and everyone at work and all my friends started treating me like I wasn't normal anymore so I realized that I could never tell anyone that I was getting help
7. [+29, -0] From personal experience, it gets harder and harder to tell anyone the deeper your depression gets. You don't want to keep talking about it and making those around you feel depressed too. Once it gets worse, you just don't want to speak or hear anything at all.
8. [+28, -1] Reality is that people have to hide their depression the best they can otherwise people start whispering and trying to stay away from you, gossipping with co-workers like, "hey, that guy has depression"..
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Article: The last tattoo that Jonghyun wanted was 'BYE'
Source: SBS via Nate
1. [+1,503, -16] He kept putting out signals asking for help... I think the fact that he had a profession that forced him to smile in the deepest of his pains just made everything so much worse
2. [+1,242, -24] He left so many clues about his depression and signs asking for help everywhere in his music and other places and yet no one recognized them...
3. [+1,135, -26] He left so many signals... I'm so heartbroken and sorry that no one recognized these. I don't know him at all, I'm not even a fan, but I remember listening to his radio every night after work and feeling consoled by it... He left this world after consoling so many people. I've choked up so much because of this. Rest in peace, Jonghyun-ssi...
4. [+70, -0] He desperately wanted to die, but also desperately wanted to live as well... how heartbreaking..
5. [+51, -3] Seeing all these things laid out makes me realize that he has asked for help so many times, waiting for someone to recognize it... So sorry that we are so late. You've been through so much so please just rest peacefully where you are now.
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Article: The reason Jonghyun never announced his January comeback himself
Source: X Sports News via Nate
1. [+1,372, -14] He really was preparing for his end all along... I always thought he looked sad when he was looking at his fans at his concert
2. [+1,271, -10] Looks like he only wanted to say things he could keep promises to... Really seems like every moment he was alive, his mind was just in shambles...
3. [+1,259, -7] He was slowly making preparations for himself. I wonder what he was thinking while singing his new song. I'm not a SHINee fan but it was obvious that he loved them dearly, it's still unbelievable to me that he's gone. So many people are accompanying him on his last farewell. You were a great person and you lived a hard life. You may be gone but your music won't be forgotten by us.
4. [+154, -1] Looking back on everything after his death, there's nothing but heartbreaking signs. Sad facial expressions at his concert too. There have been celebrity suicides but I don't think any as thoughtfully prepared as this, which makes it all the more shocking. Our country is especially big on love and envy of idols so I think the fact that a top idol like him has left us will leave the nation in a state of trauma for quite a while.
5. [+112, -1] So his death was not sudden but rather thoughtfully prepared. Imagine how every single day must've been hell for him until then..
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