Chuseok stress

Article: "Did you gain weight? When are you getting married?"... relatives ask out of "concern"

Source: Segye Ilbo via Nate

Most tweeted 'Chuseok' key words of 2014
1. Have a happy 17,093
2. Stress 4,415
3. Difficult 3,697
4. Cry 3,803
5. Fun 2,670
6. Disgusting 2,640
7. Lonely 2,558
8. Happy 2,456
9. Delicious food 2,448
10. Tired 2,249

Nagging people didn't want to hear: "Hurry and get married", "Did you gain weight?", "Just get hired anywhere you can get in"

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1. [+831, -34] Looks like you've gained weight, do you have a boyfriend, you should lose weight because who would want to date you, where did you work again, there's a company like that? These are all questions that are supposed to ask about what you've been up to and sounds like they're concerned for you but it's just a diss..

2. [+739, -80] I hate this holiday culture. You shouldn't be forced to see relatives you aren't comfortable with.

3. [+643, -55] But honestly, you see your relatives like once or twice a year, what else is there to talk about other than these questions

4. [+43, -6] You can ask back, "So how's your retirement plan comming along?" "When are you retiring?" "How are your kid's grades?" "Is your business going well?" etc etc...

5. [+37, -5] As a woman past her thirties, the holidays is a time when I become the most horrible daughter for making my parents worry about my marriage future because of these relatives ㅋㅋㅋ I'd rather just send my parents some money and see them on my own another day. Why go and get stressed out and criticized by relatives about what a bad daughter I am for not getting married...

6. [+31, -4] Just in one ear, out the other. The person asking isn't asking to hear an answer, they just want to ask what you've been up to.

7. [+27, -0] Sounds more like they're trying to put you down and act all high and mighty over you because they'd never ask these questions to niece/nephew who's a doctor or in Seoul University ㅋㅋ

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Source: Naver

1. [+8,828, -233] It's because Koreans care too much about the businesses of others. And they call that 'caring' for you.

2. [+7,812, -100] I can stand everything else but not when they compare me to their own kid and try to show their kid off by putting me down

3. [+5,745, -1277] Have to give it to Koreans sticking their nose where it doesn't belong

4. [+5,473, -71] Yeah seriously, you're seeing your family after such a long time and you should be saying nice things, not putting them down.

5. [+4,547, -369] Korean parents are obsessed with sending their kids off to marriage... forcing them, shoving them... they treat their kid's lives like it's their own. And when things go wrong and they get a divorce, they ignore the kids.

6. [+1,652, -22] Did you study well? -> Did you get a good mark on your college entrance exam? -> When are you going ot get a job? -> What company are you working for? How much do you make a year? -> When are you getting married? -> When are you having kids? -> Are you going to have a second kid? -> Does your kid study well? -> Rinse and repeat

7. [+1,040, -23] I seriously hate holidays. You're forced to sit with family you're not even close with and act all chummy with them.

8. [+915, -21] I hate people who say mean things and then justify it saying "I'm just worried for you~" I remember when my father passed away last year and relatives took my brother aside who just entered junior high and instead of consoling him, they asked how his studies were going. I still remember their faces when I told them to knock it off.

9. [+920, -45] Here are your answers to the common questions. When are you getting married? -> I'm too poor, I'll get married if you give me 100k ^^. Did you gain weight? -> You should buy me a gym membership so I can work out ^^. Did you get a job? -> Put in a good word for me if you know someone who works at a good company~ ^^

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